'16 years ago [...] I slept with another woman which resulted in another child': Cheating husband punishes daughter for acting out after she felt excluded

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    Font - AITA for punishing my daughter for making us all worried? My wife and I have a son(17M) together. 16 years ago I was drunk and I slept with another woman which resulted in another child(16F). My wife forgave me but she made it clear that she doesn't want to be anywhere near my daughter. I have my daughter every other weekend and my wife would just go to her parents home every time she is with me.
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    Font - A few days ago we were going out with my extended family and my daughter was also invited but her mom wasn't invited. She asked me if I could give her a ride and I said yes but when my wife found out she said that while she doesn't have a problem with my daughter being there she doesn't want her to come with us. I tried to change her mind but I couldn't so I asked both my brothers if either of them would bring my daughter with them. They both said yes so I called my daughter and told her
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    Font - Well we went there and both my brothers came and my daughter wasn't with either one of them. They both said that my daughter told them she is going with the other one I called her and her mom and all her friends but no one knew where she is so everyone just left to search for her and after a few hours my son found her. I was so mad at her I yelled at her and told her how she made us all worried. I took away her car(that I bought for her) as a punishment
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    Font - Her mom has been calling me, saying I'm an hole and demanding I give her car back Edit: just to clarify, she didn't drive there because it had a dangerous road and she is not a good driver so I told her she is not allowed to drive there
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    Font - Edit: ok everyone I got it. I'm the hole. I gave her car back. it seems like everyone thought I was taking the car forever. I wasn't. It was just supposed to be for a month. I tried to talk to her but she doesn't want to talk however she talked to my son and he told me she was very upset and didn't come because she thought I didn't want her there and the reason she didn't tell us where she was going was, as I guessed, to ruin my day and make me angry. I called her and apologized and told
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    Font - CleanCucumber620. 22 hr. ago 3 S Partassipant [3] YTA I'm sorry I get that your wife is upset with your cheating but she is putting all her anger and hurt feelings onto your daughter. You have two children and if your wife can't see that, then you both should end this relationship. Your daugther deserves to have her dad in her life as much as your son does.
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    Font - If your son is allowed to come with you to an event, then so should your daugther. And if you want to support your wife and can't stick up for your child then she is better off without you. 16.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Ladyughsalot1 19 hr. ago OP wanted stability so much he just decided sure I'll treat my kid as an inconvenience. Thanks for the forgiveness! Gross 4.5k Reply
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    Font - Successful Moment_ 91 18 hr. ago. edited 17 hr. ago And he said the alcohol forced him to knock up another woman! Dude has an issue with taking responsibility YTA 3.5k Reply S
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    Font - d4dana 19 hr. ago W . This. All these yrs his wife has been punishing the only person not at fault in this situation. I'm disgusted that you all went along with this at the expense of your daughter. You and your wife are total sholes for what you have done to your daughter. And fyi you really suck for taking away her car. 1.1k Reply S
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    Font - GO Resolve-Creepy. 19 hr. ago Partassipant [4] Just coming here to say that i find it incredibly difficult to understand how your wife can go 16 years without seeing your daughter, and having to leave her house so that your daughter can spend time with you. Seems incredibly challenging and such an inconvenience. She is punishing your daughter for something she had no control over. And you are allowing your wife to disrespect her. YTA 483 Reply S
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    Font - Claws_and_chains 18 hr. ago Oh I would say this has exceeded past disrespect to emotional abuse if her presence at events is run by the wife. Is she ignored on holidays? Left out of family birthdays? How often are snide comments made to her by wife or son? Just having seen a black sheep situation play out there's no way it doesn't get much much worse. 256 Reply
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    Font - Resolve-Creepy 18 hr. ago Partassipant [4] I assume that most negativity doesn't get through since wife doesn't want to see her at all. But either way, that's still a lot for the girl to handle all that rejection.
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    Font - Mental-Woodpecker300. 18 hr. ago Exactly, the fact that OP is the one that couldn't control himself when drunk and is now letting his daughter take the blame just for being born from his infidelity shows the type of person he is. But don't worry op! I'm sure once your daughter is old enough to she will most likely cut contact with you so you won't have to deal with the burden of her existence anymore! YTA and I really hope karma comes for a visit. 133 Reply Share
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    Font - Emergency_Web_8722. 19 hr. ago YTA-well put! You have allowed your wife to treat your daughter as a non- entity for far too long. Stand by your daughter and ask her forgiveness for tolerating years of being told she is unworthy. 418 Reply Share

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